From the day we are born, the world teaches us, shapes us, by betraying us. No amount of growing up can help you with this. Fear of the people we love most is inevitable...
You see, expectations and the consequent betrayals are how we learn. Each betrayal is recorded as something we cannot depend on. It is normal and is part of the function of rationality. It is also normal to fear what we cannot depend on.
And people? You definitely cannot depend on people. No matter how much they love you and you love them back, people will betray you.
This is because people are all impermanent creatures, themselves victims of innumerable betrayals. Looking at the world and its complexities, you realise that anybody who is dependable is such through death. You can depend on dead people to stay dead. (so far, anyway.)
The idea, I suspect, is to decrease one's expectations of people to the point of approaching non-existence. We cannot really erase these expectations to zero without living painfully lonely lives. But we can find a balance on the low end that is more representative of how much we really can depend on people. (very little.)
And yet shall you be betrayed by us. But with the above understanding, you might fret less and free up more time to deal with the infinite betrayal of an infinite universe...
